gahh, this has been bugging me lately. the first time 20 times I heard someone say “all men are awful”, it had the intended effect … I reflected on it, tried to think about my societal advantages and how dispiriting it is to be a woman on the internet. but it also sets up a No true (Scots)man. a prominent feminist posts something, dozens of men respond positively and supportively — they don’t try to explain or improve the joke, or take credit, or redirect attention to themselves — and it’s like “well it’s not THOSE men”. statements like that imply you can’t be a man and good feminist at the same time. and that makes me want to disengage.
Yeah, I understand that, but as was pointed out to me in a discussion about social justice and race, it is unfair to say to the people who are underprivileged to use more of their limited resources to carefully construct a palatable discussion rather than expecting our privileged selves to use a smaller amount of resources which we have more of, to analyze and understand what is being said. At this point if I see, for example, posts about “all white people” I check myself against it. Sometimes what is being said will apply to me and I’ll attempt to take it on board, otherwise it takes minimal mental effort to understand that the post is still a representation of the person’s experience of the majority of white people and represents an important statement about the imbalances in our society.